I have this friend I’ve known since high school and she’s been married like a million years, probably 24, to the same guy and although she dated a lot before meeting her husband she didn’t have sex until her wedding night.
Every so often she will ask me things about sex, not personal things just things like have I done this or that. I jokingly tell her she’s calling me a tramp by assuming I know these things.

Having been single from age 21 to 29 I dated a few times BWAHAHAHAHA and then I was separated from 2002 to 2005...or was it 2003?? who cares, anyway, obviously my number is higher than hers and one of her latest questions were about the number.
I’ve never told her what it is, but she probably thinks it’s lower...maybe higher, again who cares, but she asked me if JR knows what my number is, if it’s higher than his and if I am glad I’ve had that number.
We talked a bit more and she admitted that she does wish she’d know what to compare her relationship to, she doesn’t think it’s ever been good, she doesn’t know what all the fuss is about...that made me sad for her, just because you are with just one person doesn’t mean you have to have so-so sex.
She’s asked me some pretty detailed questions lately, poor thing she just blushes and I can tell it takes her forever to work up the nerve to ask me certain things, and I try to go easy on her since I can be a smartass...like the other day she said she and her husband have only done it MILITARY style!
I had to hold back from blurting out a WTH is that??????????

I’m hoping she will benefit from our talks, and maybe next time I see her hubby he’ll thank me...he’d better thank me!

This all brought me to think about my number I am completely fine with it, I don’t think it’s too much...JR knows what it is and teases me because yes, mine is higher...but ONLY because he was married for 17 freaking years...had he been single as long as I was? please we all know men are total sluts.
Does your husband or significant other know your real number? do you shave off a couple of people? and if so what is your criteria for the shaving off?
If the sex was really really bad do you still count it?
If it was OVER before it started...does that count?
I’m not being nosy really, just call it research for my friend;)

Poor girl, I’m hoping soon she will be able to leave the light on...baby steps.